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Happiness
Happiness is… cut for pornographic content
BDSM: Theory and Practice of Figging
Note: This is part 6 of an occasional ongoing "how to" series on BDSM.
Part 1 of the series, How to Tie a Rope Harness Part I, is here.
Part 2 of the series, How to Tie a Frog Tie, is here.
Part 3 of the series, How to Tie a Shinju, is here.
Part 4 of the series, How to Make a Custom Dildo out of Ice, is here.
Part 5 of the series, How to Make a Spikey Decorative Collar, is here.
As you can probably figure out, most of these tutorials are really, really not work-safe.
This particular tutorial is work-safe, at least photographically (the text is probably not very work-safe, though!). It describes the practice of figging, which is making a butt plug out of ginger for an interesting warm tingle sensation. It’s particularly good for disciplining those naughty subs for whom an old-fashioned paddling has become humdrum. I recently had an opportunity to explore this with one of my sweeties, to great effect. If it sounds like it’s up your alley, clicky the link!
How to make a cool spikey collar
Note: This is part 5 of an occasional ongoing "how to" series on BDSM.
Part 1 of the series, How to Tie a Rope Harness Part I, is here.
Part 2 of the series, How to Tie a Frog Tie, is here.
Part 3 of the series, How to Tie a Shinju, is here.
Part 4 of the series, How to Make a Custom Dildo out of Ice, is here.
As you can probably figure out, most of these tutorials are really, really not work-safe.
This particular tutorial is work-safe, and describes how to make a very unusual style of collar that’s perfect for clubbing, wearing to a play party, or whatever else you like. And if you make it from UV-reactive cable ties, it even glows under black light!
Haphazard
Thoughts and fragments from the last weekend, and other miscellaneous assorted stuff. Ready? Here we go!
Everything I ever needed to know, I learned by fisting my girlfriend at a play party
– Trying new things is fun.
– Stretching one’s boundaries may be uncomfortable, but the reward is more than worth a little discomfort.
– It’s difficult to predict in advance what one will or will not enjoy. The only way to learn one’s self is by systematic experimentation.
– Life rewards courage.
– Life is not a spectator sport, but sometimes having an audience makes things just that much better.
Meetings and new friendships
The weekend was a blur of new faces. I met cunningminx, libbydabomb, scathedobsidian (who is an outstanding writer; I highly recommend his journal), and jaded_dreamer; shot pool with shinyobject; and variously up-met-with, around-hung-with, and otherwise associated with a startling number of people who very probably do not have LiveJournal accounts (or at least do not have LiveJournal accounts I know about).
I did not get to meet amorsalado or purplebard, on account of missing furniture and such. Maybe next time.
Quotes Out of Context
“I only hurt you because it gets me off.”
“Sucking cock is contextual.”
“An irrational trigger around sex? Oooh, shiny! Let’s play!”
(okay, so the last isn’t technically from the weekend, but still…)
The Rules
In Which Franklin gets all Old Testament about conduct in the dungeon.
ON CONDUCT
When thou dost come unto me and beseech me, saying, “Verily, do I request of you a good paddling,” then surely I will grant unto thee a good paddling. During the period of the paddling, thou shalt not say unto me “What was that, a mosquito?”, nor compare thy paddling to the flight of any other insect, or any creeping thing upon the earth, be it a moth, or a caterpillar; nor draw any likeness between the instrument of thy paddling and the feathers of the birds above; for surely shalt thy paddling grow mighty and endless, and welts shall be upon thy backside for four and thirty days.
And in those days when thou art being flogged, thou shalt not giggle and wag thy ass in a taunting manner, nor squirm and attempt to escape when the flogging becomes greater for it, for then wilt thou be cast into bondage, so that thine ass will no longer be able to wiggle, nor shalt thou be able to squirm.
Thou shalt not speak with thy mouth full, though moaning is okay.
Neither shalt thou allow the passions of thy loins to reach the pinnacle of their fruition, save for those times when I commandeth thee; and in those times, thou shalt come with the force of a raging firestorm, with much screaming and wailing; for thy screams of ecstasy are pleasing to me.
Thou shalt wear no clothing that is displeasing in my sight, nor place within thy pants back issues of National Geographic magazine, to protect thy backside from the force of my hand; for verily I will notice, and remove the magazine, and upon your backside shall I become medieval. So it is written.
Thou shalt not take thy master’s name in vain, nor forget thy master’s title when asked. Thou shalt say “sir” or “maestro” when asked thy master’s title. Thou shalt not say “buttercups,” nor “sugarpants,” nor even “bunnykins,” nor refer to any other cute and cuddly beast that doth roam the earth. Neither shalt thou say “Oh yeah? Make me!” For truly will I then make you, and the bruises shall be on your bum like a plague of locusts unto Egypt.
And speaking of Egypt, when the wetness doth issue from between thy thighs like the waters of the Nile, say not to me “Please, i do not want it,” for verily shall I judge thy words to be falsehoods, and these words shall not be heard.
Temperature play in BDSM: How to Make an Ice Dildo
Note: This is part 4 of an occasional ongoing "how to" series on BDSM.
Part 1 of the series, How to Tie a Rope Harness Part I, is here.
Part 2 of the series, How to Tie a Frog Tie, is here.
Part 3 of the series, How to Tie a Shinju, is here.
As you might well imagine, none of these posts is even remotely work-safe.
One fun aspect of sensation play that can spice up your sex life is temperature play. Many people have experimented with using ice cubes on their lovers in bed, and I’ve met many women who really, really enjoy the sensation of cold. But there’s more you cn do than just take an ice cube out of the freezer and stroke a bare nipple with it! Presented here is something to take that basic idea to the next level: instructions for making a customized dildo out of ice.
How to Tie a Simple Shinju (breast harness)
Note: This is part 3 of an occasional ongoing “how to” series on rope bondage.
Part 1 of the series, How to Tie a Rope Harness Part I, is here.
Part 2 of the series, How to Tie a Frog Tie, is here.
As you might well imagine, none of these posts is even remotely work-safe.
In Japanese bondage (or “shibari”), a breast harness is called a “shinju.” A shinju can be applied to just about any woman, though most shinju harnesses don’t work well on men.
The style of shinju shown here is very simple, and easy to learn. More complex harnesses may have several layers of rope that cross the breasts directly, or vertical sections that are designed to press on and stimulate the nipples. This simple shinju can be used as a starting point for you to explore more complex forms of breast bondage, or can be tied beneath the karada demonstrated earlier.
So, without further ado, on to the tutorial!
You probably don't want to click this link at work
How to Tie a Rope Harness, Part II
As promised, part II of the rope harness tutorial, in which the reason Tacit likes using longer pieces of rope is revealed.
As before, unless you work in a place where women in bondage is considered passé, this link is totally not even close to being work-safe. IT Morlocks, cave behind the server room, dragging you down never to see the light of day again…you know the drill.
How to Make a Rope Harness…
…for people who can’t even tie a knot.
I’m working on a new Web site, which will contain, among other things, an extensive BDSM how-to section, complete with tutorials and guides. The first one I’m working on is a how-to for tying a rope harness, for folks like me who know next to nothing about knot-tying. Any feedback is appreciated, especially in terms of clarity of the written part of the direction.
The model is the lovely joreth.
WARNING: What lies beneath this cut is SO not work-safe that if you even think about clicking on the link while you are at work, your company’s IT Morlocks will rise from their caves behind the server room and drag you down into their lair, and you will never bee seen again. You’ve been warned.