Since dayo and I are long-distance partners, a little creativity and imagination go a long way toward keeping our relationship going. She and I have a D/s relationship, and I take great (and rather fiendish) delight in giving her assignments to do from time to time. One of the things I particularly like doing, because I’m something of a bastard, is not letting her have an orgasm for extended periods of time, like days or even weeks. She’s still required to do all manner of naughty things to herself, mind…she just cant come.
Now, I have more than one partner. And my partners have a habit of talking to each other. And sometimes, when they talk to each other, they plan. And plot.
And so it came to pass that figmentj stepped into the role of dayo‘s Avenging Angel. dayo feels most comfortable in a submissive role in our relationship, but that doesn’t stop her from delighting when figmentj gives me a taste of her medicine, so to speak.
So for fifteen days, I’ve been on restriction, which (finally!) ended last week. Now, I have a very strong libido, and fifteen days without an orgasm is…well, it feels more like fifteen years.
It starts subtle, like a vague subliminal hum. You know how sometimes when there’s an air conditioner or some kind of equipment running, even when it makes a lot of noise you’re not consciously aware of it? And then when it stops, you’re like “Wow, that was really noisy?” It’s kind of like that–a constant, low-grade background horniness that’s only noticeable when something takes my attention to it.
It doesn’t stay that way, though. Oh, my, no.
After about four days, it’s more like a constant, omnipresent itch. There’s a sort of constant hunger, nagging but not intrusive…but at this point it’s definitely noticeable, and there’s still eleven more days to go.
At about five days, it’s hard to think of anything except sex. At six or seven days, it’s hard to think about anything but sex and it’s also hard to sleep. Or, for that matter, concentrate on much of anything else for any stretch of time. It becomes much more satisfying to PvP in World of Warcraft, though; sex ad death are, it seems, two constants of the human condition. If you can’t fuck, find someone to hit with a sword.
Now, I’m generally horniest in the morning and late at night. After a week without an orgasm, I’m much too much of a wreck to be horny in the morning, mostly due to the fact that it takes a long time to get to sleep, and when I do sleep it’s usually shallowly. And, y’know, hornily. So that makes life worst during the evening, which is normally when I’m playing WoW.
Funny thing, that. I now strongly associate sexual arousal with playing WoW. More than two weeks of playing the game while perpetually horny has created what just might be a permanent association between the two; firing up the game gives me wood. I shit you not.
Midweek te second week, I was sorely tempted on a daily basis to break the rules and get myself off hard. In fact, it took reserves of self-control I had no idea I had not to; simple things like seeing one of my sweeties log in to AIM or Yahoo Instant Messenger would cause an instant hot flash of sexual arousal.
It’s an interesting way to see the world, actually. Most of our experience of the world around us is filtered through our emotional state, and being perpetually aroused makes everything a little brighter and a little more colorful. Sex is one of the most basic of human drives, and there’s no doubt it gives everything else–which, when you’re that horny, means everything–a bit of a boost.
I damn near didn’t make it fifteen days. On day fourteen I was craving sex like a caffeine addict with a Starbuck’s gift card, and the only thing that stopped me was thinking about what I would do if I were in figmentj‘s shoes and I broke the rules. She’s at least as clever and creative as I am, maybe more so–and that thought by itself kept me on the path.
Day fifteen, I think I woke my neighbors. 🙂
Muahah. Muahahaha. Muahahahahahahah. That is all. *cackle*
I do believe I have to echo that, though without the strong personal element of revenge.
Muahah. Muahahaha. Muahahahahahahah. That is all. *cackle*
Now I wish I had known that when I stripped for you on webcam – I might have made that more elaborate than the little peek I gave you at the time 😉
Man, we could really make a team game out of this. 😉
The benefits and drawbacks of being poly – all at once!
Let’s gang up on!!!
*huge evil grin* Benefits and drawbacks indeed — sometimes it’s FUN to gang up on a partner!! ^_^
Homework assignments are a fantastic way to bring long-distance relationships closer . . . and it sounds like you guys are having far too much fun with this!
*applause*
— A (finally back from the UK!)
Now I wish I had known that when I stripped for you on webcam – I might have made that more elaborate than the little peek I gave you at the time 😉
Not just being horny, but being actively sexual makes the world a more interesting, intense place. It’s like living in color and the rest of the world lives in black and white. Glad you made it the whole time without exploding.
Not just being horny, but being actively sexual makes the world a more interesting, intense place. It’s like living in color and the rest of the world lives in black and white. Glad you made it the whole time without exploding.
Awesome.
Awesome.
And yet another reason why I just don’t do that sort of thing – the denial bit. If I want an orgasm there isn’t any one going to stop me. One of my sweeties mentioned doing that to me as punishment for some minor slight. I made it clear that it was not an option. No thanks, I like my orgasms just the way they are thanks.
I feel the same way, ironically. I don’t seem to mind doing it to someone else, though.
I’m a bad person that way.
And yet another reason why I just don’t do that sort of thing – the denial bit. If I want an orgasm there isn’t any one going to stop me. One of my sweeties mentioned doing that to me as punishment for some minor slight. I made it clear that it was not an option. No thanks, I like my orgasms just the way they are thanks.
*snerk*
ahem.
*snerk*
ahem.
Being perpetually horny only makes you cranky & irritated.
Being perpetually horny only makes you cranky & irritated.
What helps me, in these situations, are things like chastity shorts. Yeah yeah, no good for long time wear but I find myself most likely to masturbate before going to sleep or when waking up. During the day at work, not so much of a problem. So locking myself each night up provides just enough of an obstruction that I keep on the wagon.
And, annoyingly, my pair of shorts “broke” (the lock bar snapped off; damn!)
What helps me, in these situations, are things like chastity shorts. Yeah yeah, no good for long time wear but I find myself most likely to masturbate before going to sleep or when waking up. During the day at work, not so much of a problem. So locking myself each night up provides just enough of an obstruction that I keep on the wagon.
And, annoyingly, my pair of shorts “broke” (the lock bar snapped off; damn!)
Can I just point out that, while effective as torture, male orgasm denial might have health consequences?
There are studies which show (although it’s not conclusive there is strong evidence) that regular orgasms (preferably every other day, at least every 3) lower the risk of prostate cancer.
Can I just point out that, while effective as torture, male orgasm denial might have health consequences?
There are studies which show (although it’s not conclusive there is strong evidence) that regular orgasms (preferably every other day, at least every 3) lower the risk of prostate cancer.
*sporfle*
Too bad one of your sweeties wasn’t there to tempt you in person.
*sporfle*
Too bad one of your sweeties wasn’t there to tempt you in person.
firing up the game gives me wood
Things‘s guildies do not want to know for $300, Alex.
really? makes me wanna traipse my human warrior around in front of him sans armor. (yes a boring human warrior, was my first character created lol)
firing up the game gives me wood
Things‘s guildies do not want to know for $300, Alex.
Which explains why militarism and oppressive sexual morality tend to coincide…
hehe. are you familiar with Spiral Dynamics? go look up the “BLUE” vMEME (or D-Q
I’ll have a look at it. 🙂 I was thinking more of Reich’s Mass psychology of Fascism.
Which explains why militarism and oppressive sexual morality tend to coincide…
I wonder how long it would take before you were no longer horny at all and had achieved some kind of spiritual enlightenment. Of course, day 15 probably *felt* like spiritual enlightenment. But…have you have ever gone without sex long enough to just lose interest in the whole enterprise?
um, 1 word for me….DIVORCE
I go 4-6 MONTHS at a time without sex, and yes I get to the point where the shower massager isn’t even interesting any more.
For me, it’s usually about 1-2 months. There’s like a celibacy switch in my brain. It’s like SEX SEX SEX SE..oh, never mind, whatever. It tends to be revivable though, so far. 😉
I wonder how long it would take before you were no longer horny at all and had achieved some kind of spiritual enlightenment. Of course, day 15 probably *felt* like spiritual enlightenment. But…have you have ever gone without sex long enough to just lose interest in the whole enterprise?
Just reading that made me hard.
Just reading that made me hard.
wow. thats some awful shit right there.
also on a side note you need a proofreader. not that your typos are bad, but now i cant help but see them;p
wow. thats some awful shit right there.
also on a side note you need a proofreader. not that your typos are bad, but now i cant help but see them;p
I do believe I have to echo that, though without the strong personal element of revenge.
really? makes me wanna traipse my human warrior around in front of him sans armor. (yes a boring human warrior, was my first character created lol)
um, 1 word for me….DIVORCE
I go 4-6 MONTHS at a time without sex, and yes I get to the point where the shower massager isn’t even interesting any more.
Man, we could really make a team game out of this. 😉
oh … yeah, BTDT. Had it done to me, done it to a partner, but not for 2 weeks. I admire you …. *ahem* …discipline 😉
oh … yeah, BTDT. Had it done to me, done it to a partner, but not for 2 weeks. I admire you …. *ahem* …discipline 😉
I feel the same way, ironically. I don’t seem to mind doing it to someone else, though.
I’m a bad person that way.
For me, it’s usually about 1-2 months. There’s like a celibacy switch in my brain. It’s like SEX SEX SEX SE..oh, never mind, whatever. It tends to be revivable though, so far. 😉
The benefits and drawbacks of being poly – all at once!
Let’s gang up on!!!
Double Game
Try this..
Have an orgasm.
Wait 1 day
Have another
Wait 2 days
Have another
Wait 4 days
Have another
Wait 8 days
Have another
Wait 16 days
Etc.
It’s my plan when I get a chastity device with the tax money. It gets evil pretty quickly.
Double Game
Try this..
Have an orgasm.
Wait 1 day
Have another
Wait 2 days
Have another
Wait 4 days
Have another
Wait 8 days
Have another
Wait 16 days
Etc.
It’s my plan when I get a chastity device with the tax money. It gets evil pretty quickly.
hehe. are you familiar with Spiral Dynamics? go look up the “BLUE” vMEME (or D-Q
I’ll have a look at it. 🙂 I was thinking more of Reich’s Mass psychology of Fascism.
*huge evil grin* Benefits and drawbacks indeed — sometimes it’s FUN to gang up on a partner!! ^_^
Homework assignments are a fantastic way to bring long-distance relationships closer . . . and it sounds like you guys are having far too much fun with this!
*applause*
— A (finally back from the UK!)
I thought you’d like to read this:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/02/12/AR2008021203072.html?hpid=features1&hpv=local
I thought you’d like to read this:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/02/12/AR2008021203072.html?hpid=features1&hpv=local
Geez, and all I want to know is which server you’re on so you can STICK YOUR SWORD IN ME.
Geez, and all I want to know is which server you’re on so you can STICK YOUR SWORD IN ME.
My Goddess (my dom, obviously) puts me on restriction from time to time, particularly when we’re getting close to when we can have time together. I’m free to play with my other sweeties, of course, but I can’t actually ask them to make me come (nor can I say ‘no’ to them.) An obvious exception to this would be my sub, but she’s a LDR so the timing doesn’t usually work out.
When we do get together, she often likes to lock me in a CB3K — the padlock matches the one on my collar, of course. After a day or so of serving her in numerous ways, she does let me have a reward.
This last time, we got to that point and she pulls out a 30-second sandglass. “You’ve got 30 second … GO!” I didn’t make it on the first try, but it is a testament to how well I obey her that I stopped. After eating her for a while longer she gave me a second chance. That time just as she said “Stop!” I shuddered and orgasmed rather strongly … I would have been concerned about the neighbors if I could have thought that clearly!
Ah, good weekend …
My Goddess (my dom, obviously) puts me on restriction from time to time, particularly when we’re getting close to when we can have time together. I’m free to play with my other sweeties, of course, but I can’t actually ask them to make me come (nor can I say ‘no’ to them.) An obvious exception to this would be my sub, but she’s a LDR so the timing doesn’t usually work out.
When we do get together, she often likes to lock me in a CB3K — the padlock matches the one on my collar, of course. After a day or so of serving her in numerous ways, she does let me have a reward.
This last time, we got to that point and she pulls out a 30-second sandglass. “You’ve got 30 second … GO!” I didn’t make it on the first try, but it is a testament to how well I obey her that I stopped. After eating her for a while longer she gave me a second chance. That time just as she said “Stop!” I shuddered and orgasmed rather strongly … I would have been concerned about the neighbors if I could have thought that clearly!
Ah, good weekend …