A little while ago, I posted the first go-round of a map of the human sexual condition. The purpose of this map is to try to set out a rough approximation of the scope and breadth of human sexual expression–which is, even for a dedicated kinkster, quite a mammoth undertaking.
That post has attracted rather a lot of attention. I was flooded with feedback and comments–in LiveJournal, in email (boy, did I get a lot of email!), even in IM. And it’s amazing how many things I left off the first version of the sexuality map.
So I’ve been spending a lot of time working on an update to the map. The new version of the sex map has rather a lot of new stuff listed, and a whole new range of islands. Some parts were rearranged, many new ‘countries’ have been added, some parts have been clarified, and I’ve even added few embellishments. And so here, finally, is the new version! (Clicky the map for a much, much, MUCH bigger picture)
I’ve received a lot of emails requesting that I think about making a poster version of the Map. I’m probably also going to make a floor-to-ceiling giclee print of the Map for myself, though I doubt too many folks will be interested in those; it’ll probably cost me around a hundred bucks or so to print. (But still, damn! What a neat wall hanging for the bedroom.)
Anyway, I definitely appreciate all the feedback from the first version, and I’m interested in hearing what you all have to say about this version.
Eventually, I’ll put an interactive version of this map on my Web site, as soon as I can find some PHP code somewhere that’ll let me register mouse clicks and draw images of a stick pin at the click coordinates. The code I’ve found so far redraws the entire graphic, which isn’t realistic as the GIF image weighs in at damn near one and a half megabytes.
Psh~ for a single copy, I’ll do it for free. It won’t be laminated however. Just a ink-jet print on high-quality color paper. Any standard format should work, Tif/PDF probaby would be best.
Psh~ for a single copy, I’ll do it for free. It won’t be laminated however. Just a ink-jet print on high-quality color paper. Any standard format should work, Tif/PDF probaby would be best.
Very cool! I’d love to have a wall version to add pins to!
Very cool! I’d love to have a wall version to add pins to!
You might want to register at http://www.fetlife.com. It’s a MySpace type site for kinksters. They have an interactive fetish matrix, when you join you can pick from the existing fetishes and add your own. If you add your own, it gets added to the selections page. The more people who register a particular kink, the larger and bolder the text appears on the main fetish page. There’re some fascinating things there. I never knew “You, shutting the fuck up” was a fetish before.
I was happy to see that one of my personal peccadilloes, ass to mouth, is so popular and bemused by the existence of “forced cheezburger.”
You might find some new things there. 🙂
I’m on FetLife, dude! 🙂 My nickname there is “tacit.”
Hmm, not sure how I’ve managed to miss you. *goes to add*
It’s been interesting watching the fetishes matrix evolve but the people who insist on adding long descriptions are annoying.
You might want to register at http://www.fetlife.com. It’s a MySpace type site for kinksters. They have an interactive fetish matrix, when you join you can pick from the existing fetishes and add your own. If you add your own, it gets added to the selections page. The more people who register a particular kink, the larger and bolder the text appears on the main fetish page. There’re some fascinating things there. I never knew “You, shutting the fuck up” was a fetish before.
I was happy to see that one of my personal peccadilloes, ass to mouth, is so popular and bemused by the existence of “forced cheezburger.”
You might find some new things there. 🙂
I’m on FetLife, dude! 🙂 My nickname there is “tacit.”
Somewhere, I don’t care where but I can think of a few good spots, but SOMEWHERE on that map it has to have a “Here there be dragons”.
and a duck of course, lol
Somewhere, I don’t care where but I can think of a few good spots, but SOMEWHERE on that map it has to have a “Here there be dragons”.
and a duck of course, lol
I remembered seeing something once before that was interesting but I don’t have large images to print out so I moved on and forgot about it. Your comment about having the map as a wall hanging reminded me of it.
http://homokaasu.org/rasterbator/
Maybe that will help with the whole idea of having it on your wall. 😉
I remembered seeing something once before that was interesting but I don’t have large images to print out so I moved on and forgot about it. Your comment about having the map as a wall hanging reminded me of it.
http://homokaasu.org/rasterbator/
Maybe that will help with the whole idea of having it on your wall. 😉
Hmm, not sure how I’ve managed to miss you. *goes to add*
It’s been interesting watching the fetishes matrix evolve but the people who insist on adding long descriptions are annoying.
Zero-G sex is not imaginary, and I have a scar to prove it.
It would fall (lol) under “Locations”.
Even those of us who haven’t (yet) been into space can still have Zero-G sex. Fly a parabola in a cargo plane and you can give the freaks in the back short runs of Zero-G. It’s not enough for serious marathon sexing, but if you’re quick, ready, and know the rules it can be done.
And it’s DAMN fun, provided you’re pumped to the gills with Dramamine (or in my case, Dramamine and Compazine).
Zero-G sex is not imaginary, and I have a scar to prove it.
It would fall (lol) under “Locations”.
Even those of us who haven’t (yet) been into space can still have Zero-G sex. Fly a parabola in a cargo plane and you can give the freaks in the back short runs of Zero-G. It’s not enough for serious marathon sexing, but if you’re quick, ready, and know the rules it can be done.
And it’s DAMN fun, provided you’re pumped to the gills with Dramamine (or in my case, Dramamine and Compazine).
Ok, this is cool. I like seeing which lands I have visited, where I have skirted around, and “where there be monsters.”
Ok, this is cool. I like seeing which lands I have visited, where I have skirted around, and “where there be monsters.”
Somewhere on the border of “Bodytype Fetishes” and “Automobile Fetishes” (perhaps close to “Crash fetish”) should be “amputee”.
Somewhere on the border of “Bodytype Fetishes” and “Automobile Fetishes” (perhaps close to “Crash fetish”) should be “amputee”.
This is even better! This is such a wonderful map. In that impossible quest to make it perfect, I’m thinking role enactment needs to be next to furry. I’m thinking smell fetish and the role enactment might simply be swapped.
This is even better! This is such a wonderful map. In that impossible quest to make it perfect, I’m thinking role enactment needs to be next to furry. I’m thinking smell fetish and the role enactment might simply be swapped.
I know you’re getting lots of suggestions – but I was wondering if the “Island of Non-Consent” would make more sense closer to the “Impassable Reaches”? It seems to me that “Child Sex Tourism” (and everything else on that island) is *definitely* on the borders of Reaver Territory.
I know you’re getting lots of suggestions – but I was wondering if the “Island of Non-Consent” would make more sense closer to the “Impassable Reaches”? It seems to me that “Child Sex Tourism” (and everything else on that island) is *definitely* on the borders of Reaver Territory.
I love your map–both versions of it! If I’d been drinking something, I would have had a spit-take when I saw the City of Harry Potterville. ^_^
I love your map–both versions of it! If I’d been drinking something, I would have had a spit-take when I saw the City of Harry Potterville. ^_^
That just rocks!
Nothing more.
That just rocks!
Nothing more.
Thought about ajaxing it, google maps style? That could have some very interesting uses. 😀
Thought about ajaxing it, google maps style? That could have some very interesting uses. 😀
I’m one of the people who posted a copy of the map on my blog. I think it’d make a great poster.
I’m one of the people who posted a copy of the map on my blog. I think it’d make a great poster.
You win The Internets.
You win The Internets.
This is just fantastic!
This is just fantastic!
I want a poster! 😛 I love it!
ps I wish “Eiffel Tower-ing” was on there somewhere. Just b/c of the wonderful mental image I get whenever someone mentions it. lol.
I want a poster! 😛 I love it!
ps I wish “Eiffel Tower-ing” was on there somewhere. Just b/c of the wonderful mental image I get whenever someone mentions it. lol.
Oooh – very cool…
But PLEASE – for all those Daddies there are some Mamas as well! Can we have Mama/boy as well as Daddy/girl?
Oooh – very cool…
But PLEASE – for all those Daddies there are some Mamas as well! Can we have Mama/boy as well as Daddy/girl?
Just had a very sad thought. You know which most common aspect of human sexuality does not appear on this map?
A huge, barren, dull, empty continent of “Simply Not Getting Any For… Oh Man, It’s Really Been a While!”
Know what I mean? These sexless marriages, or, I don’t know, just being too busy with other stuff and simply losing that drive.
But then maybe it shouldn’t be on the map. You know, one of the great things about your map is that no matter what someone’s thing is, he can now proudly stick a pin in it and think: “I’m normal! It’s on the map!”
And maybe this is the kind of satisfaction that you indeed want to deny all the “sexless by circumstances” legion. Maybe what you’re saying is: “You know what, all of you? You DO have a problem. You really should do something about it.”
What do you think?
– Ola
Good idea, another way to fit that on the map easier might be a little island off in the corner labeled ‘Involuntary long-term chastity’ or some such.
Just had a very sad thought. You know which most common aspect of human sexuality does not appear on this map?
A huge, barren, dull, empty continent of “Simply Not Getting Any For… Oh Man, It’s Really Been a While!”
Know what I mean? These sexless marriages, or, I don’t know, just being too busy with other stuff and simply losing that drive.
But then maybe it shouldn’t be on the map. You know, one of the great things about your map is that no matter what someone’s thing is, he can now proudly stick a pin in it and think: “I’m normal! It’s on the map!”
And maybe this is the kind of satisfaction that you indeed want to deny all the “sexless by circumstances” legion. Maybe what you’re saying is: “You know what, all of you? You DO have a problem. You really should do something about it.”
What do you think?
– Ola
I’d like to see a general smell fetish added (not specific things to smell, just an overall thing). And also, I’d love to see your credit on it. I’ve already seen it on a bunch of other blogs and people are losing track of where it came from.
Hmm. I suppose that falls under generic “Odor Fetishes”…
I’d like to see a general smell fetish added (not specific things to smell, just an overall thing). And also, I’d love to see your credit on it. I’ve already seen it on a bunch of other blogs and people are losing track of where it came from.
That’s awesome!
That’s awesome!
Hmm. I suppose that falls under generic “Odor Fetishes”…
Good idea, another way to fit that on the map easier might be a little island off in the corner labeled ‘Involuntary long-term chastity’ or some such.
I think it needs rearranging
Could probably ping the folks at Elliquiy or some other dedicated community to rearrange it a bit – or a lot…
I think it needs rearranging
Could probably ping the folks at Elliquiy or some other dedicated community to rearrange it a bit – or a lot…
Very cool, and I may have learnt a few new words!
Very cool, and I may have learnt a few new words!
Don’t use PHP…
… for an interactive version of the map, I’d recommend javascript. There should be some AJAX code around on the web suitable for marking things on images. On the other hand, this might be one of the rare occasions where Flash is legit… 😉
Great map anyway 🙂
Re: Don’t use PHP…
Unfortunately, some kind of server-side language is necessary–JavaScript can’t directly put the results into a database.
I eventually ended up using a combination of JavaScript and PHP.
Don’t use PHP…
… for an interactive version of the map, I’d recommend javascript. There should be some AJAX code around on the web suitable for marking things on images. On the other hand, this might be one of the rare occasions where Flash is legit… 😉
Great map anyway 🙂
Re: Don’t use PHP…
Unfortunately, some kind of server-side language is necessary–JavaScript can’t directly put the results into a database.
I eventually ended up using a combination of JavaScript and PHP.
VERY fucking cool (pun intended). Can’t wait for the poster version – WANT!
VERY fucking cool (pun intended). Can’t wait for the poster version – WANT!
Hi!
Your poster/art piece here has been a discussion point amongst a good chunk of folks I know… and I saw via your site that as well as doing kink stuff you also game. What about combining the 2? Imagine using this piece of art as the base for a Risk-type tactical game- thoughts?
Cheers,
Lee Harrington
http://www.PassionAndSoul.com
Hi!
Your poster/art piece here has been a discussion point amongst a good chunk of folks I know… and I saw via your site that as well as doing kink stuff you also game. What about combining the 2? Imagine using this piece of art as the base for a Risk-type tactical game- thoughts?
Cheers,
Lee Harrington
http://www.PassionAndSoul.com
nice work!!
two small things: athletes is misspelled, and geisha are not for sex. they are musicians and dancers and conversationalists. sex with geisha is an incredibly expensive process by which you become a patron, pay for kimono and underwrite the cost of dance performances, and then finally you’ll get to spend the night with one. mostly what you get when you pay for a geisha’s time is someone to pour drinks and keep the conversation lively in order to entertain your business contacts. fyi and all that.
nice work!!
two small things: athletes is misspelled, and geisha are not for sex. they are musicians and dancers and conversationalists. sex with geisha is an incredibly expensive process by which you become a patron, pay for kimono and underwrite the cost of dance performances, and then finally you’ll get to spend the night with one. mostly what you get when you pay for a geisha’s time is someone to pour drinks and keep the conversation lively in order to entertain your business contacts. fyi and all that.
In the time it took between sending that last response and this response, I did a google search and came up with an article written by the same person who wrote the original article, in which he admits it’s a fake:
http://www.scoutingny.com/?p=1033
I also found:
http://www.notfortourists.com/ViewRadarPrint.aspx?city=NY&print=yes&radarID=26528 and http://myheadlines.mytestbench.com/sample/index.php?y=0&myh=user&myh_op=click&cid=498114
This blog post reminds me of my experiences.
I have found that after having a bad/so-so experience in one place such as junior high before high school or first/second munch before third munch that I had a firm intent in mind that things would be different next time around.
It has always made a difference.
After growing comfy and forgetting that first intent, I sometimes forget and facing a new situation backslide into a quietness that is unnatural to me. Remembering intention is important.
When I came to university, I was away from a somewhat denying and suppressive energy in my mother. I was also away from friends I’d known a while, who I felt would be surprised at my awakening in certain ways. In college, I treated these parts of myself nonchalantly. I joined the pagan group openly. I joined the LGBTQ group openly (I even ended up on the executive board).
And it was treated as an everyday thing by those who I called my friends.
I hadn’t discovered the word “polyamory” though that was how I viewed relationships.
Oddly enough I neglected the geeky side of myself woefully in college, a part that I had reveled in during high school.
I have never been a “shy” person but rather outspoken. However I have boxed myself into the “shy” persona in new situations where I was unsure of myself. I let the uncertainty stop me from reaching out and saying “Hi!”
I am on the verge of a change in my life that could present a better job and another chance to step into the world being more myself now than I was in the past.
I will remember intent and openness as I go forward.
As for sharing about my relationships openly, perhaps I may have pictures of more than one lover at work but I always have a work/life boundary. I don’t generally see co-workers as friends though there are exceptions. I have been more likely to share my poly nature with spiritual groups I have been apart of and kink groups. And there’s never been a twitch of surprise. Though I see your point about visibility.
In the time it took between sending that last response and this response, I did a google search and came up with an article written by the same person who wrote the original article, in which he admits it’s a fake:
http://www.scoutingny.com/?p=1033
I also found:
http://www.notfortourists.com/ViewRadarPrint.aspx?city=NY&print=yes&radarID=26528 and http://myheadlines.mytestbench.com/sample/index.php?y=0&myh=user&myh_op=click&cid=498114
People, Not Freaks
The fetishization and sensationalization of intersexed and transsexual individuals is unacceptable. This is really abominable.
Additionally, transgendered individuals were not mentioned, although I actually support that since you would simply have fetishized and sensationalized them, too.
You should seriously re-think thier place on the map. They’re PEOPLE. Not freaks.
People, Not Freaks
The fetishization and sensationalization of intersexed and transsexual individuals is unacceptable. This is really abominable.
Additionally, transgendered individuals were not mentioned, although I actually support that since you would simply have fetishized and sensationalized them, too.
You should seriously re-think thier place on the map. They’re PEOPLE. Not freaks.
map addition please
Hello ,i only found this map 2 days ago its great,having looked over it though i was disappointed to find one of the main fetishes myself and lots more are into missing,the fetish is hypno fetish (as in hypnosis/erotic hypnosis/D/s hypnosis),so next time you redo it can you please add that fetish for us.thanks.hypno fetish is not new its been around for over a decade and has been added to the fetish content of most adult,bdsm ,kink websites including fet life and others.
map addition please
Hello ,i only found this map 2 days ago its great,having looked over it though i was disappointed to find one of the main fetishes myself and lots more are into missing,the fetish is hypno fetish (as in hypnosis/erotic hypnosis/D/s hypnosis),so next time you redo it can you please add that fetish for us.thanks.hypno fetish is not new its been around for over a decade and has been added to the fetish content of most adult,bdsm ,kink websites including fet life and others.
I have no idea what you’re talking about. /whistles_innocently
I have no idea what you’re talking about. /whistles_innocently
that was my thoughts on this one as well- if you are allowing the community to defend someone like that, then the community in general is not a place for me.
that was my thoughts on this one as well- if you are allowing the community to defend someone like that, then the community in general is not a place for me.
This blog post reminds me of my experiences.
I have found that after having a bad/so-so experience in one place such as junior high before high school or first/second munch before third munch that I had a firm intent in mind that things would be different next time around.
It has always made a difference.
After growing comfy and forgetting that first intent, I sometimes forget and facing a new situation backslide into a quietness that is unnatural to me. Remembering intention is important.
When I came to university, I was away from a somewhat denying and suppressive energy in my mother. I was also away from friends I’d known a while, who I felt would be surprised at my awakening in certain ways. In college, I treated these parts of myself nonchalantly. I joined the pagan group openly. I joined the LGBTQ group openly (I even ended up on the executive board).
And it was treated as an everyday thing by those who I called my friends.
I hadn’t discovered the word “polyamory” though that was how I viewed relationships.
Oddly enough I neglected the geeky side of myself woefully in college, a part that I had reveled in during high school.
I have never been a “shy” person but rather outspoken. However I have boxed myself into the “shy” persona in new situations where I was unsure of myself. I let the uncertainty stop me from reaching out and saying “Hi!”
I am on the verge of a change in my life that could present a better job and another chance to step into the world being more myself now than I was in the past.
I will remember intent and openness as I go forward.
As for sharing about my relationships openly, perhaps I may have pictures of more than one lover at work but I always have a work/life boundary. I don’t generally see co-workers as friends though there are exceptions. I have been more likely to share my poly nature with spiritual groups I have been apart of and kink groups. And there’s never been a twitch of surprise. Though I see your point about visibility.
The phrases “Integrity matters” & “Expectation on your part does not incur obligation on someone else’s” are both in green, despite being one after the other. Is this on purpose?
The phrases “Integrity matters” & “Expectation on your part does not incur obligation on someone else’s” are both in green, despite being one after the other. Is this on purpose?