“Ow!” is not a safeword.
“Oooooohhhh FUUUUCK!!!” is not a safeword.
“Oh my God YAAAAAAAAAAGH!” is not a safeword.
“EEEEEEEIIIGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!” is not a safeword.
A “cardigan” is a type of sweater.
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Other common not-safewords are “PLEASE,” “oh GOD PLEASE!” and “NO NO NO NO NONONOAHHH!”
Other common not-safewords are “PLEASE,” “oh GOD PLEASE!” and “NO NO NO NO NONONOAHHH!”
I guess “Ow! FUCK!” doesn’t work either.
Howw about, “I said MORE lube!”
I tend to get inarticulate in the throes of passion, so Hubby has learned that a clench with a look of distress and a strangled “STUFF!” is a ‘yellow’-equivalent that can be resolved with the liberal application of SlipperyStuff.
I guess “Ow! FUCK!” doesn’t work either.
Howw about, “I said MORE lube!”
I was totally expecting “cardigan” to be the safeword.
It would probably be a good choice because, at least before this, I would never have expected it to spontaneously introduce itself into a scene.
Same here.
I was totally expecting “cardigan” to be the safeword.
So what *is* a safeword?
“Aardvark” is a safeword, at least around me. “Red” is a popular one as well. “Oh, sweet Jesus, no way!” on the other hand, not so much. 🙂
This is creating really strange connections in my head… And no, not in the form of red aardvarks, though now that I think about it… 🙂
In most forms of martial arts involving joint locks, you indicate that you’ve had enough by “tapping out” — tapping the flat of your hand on the mat, your own shoulder, your opponent… Whatever will get the bugger to *let the hell go*. You very quickly learn that tapping out means tapping out. “Ow,” “that’s enough,” “I yield,” “oh, FUCK!” or any other variant are not, in fact, equivalent to tapping out.
huh, I never made that connection. I guess because in martial arts, tapping out is the end of just about every pin– it means “ok, you got me.”
With sex, “red” or whatever means that you’re doing something wrong or too much.
So what *is* a safeword?
There are safe words?
Words in general are pretty dangerous.
You know, because they convey ideas.
Those pesky words and their ideas!
That’s why I never use them!
(Um, except in this one post?)
There are safe words?
I tend to get inarticulate in the throes of passion, so Hubby has learned that a clench with a look of distress and a strangled “STUFF!” is a ‘yellow’-equivalent that can be resolved with the liberal application of SlipperyStuff.
Mmm, I think cardigan would be a great safeword … except I often put one on post-play.
You didn’t know what a cardigan was?
Nope! I didn’t know what a cardigan was. I have a lot of strange gaps in my knowledge, mostly centered around cooking, sewing, and similar domestic-type things.
Hmm… Do you know what a chesterfield is?
Nope. Do tell!
this is a Chesterfield.
Though apparently, this is also a Chesterfield.
(The meaning I had in mind was that of an overstuffed couch. Little did I know…)
Mmm, I think cardigan would be a great safeword … except I often put one on post-play.
You didn’t know what a cardigan was?
It would probably be a good choice because, at least before this, I would never have expected it to spontaneously introduce itself into a scene.
You two weren’t in such perfect synchronicity that a safe word was needed? Better turn in your BDSM membership cards!
BWAH! Don’t look at me; I was just an onlooker, not an active participant, for the evening.
You two weren’t in such perfect synchronicity that a safe word was needed? Better turn in your BDSM membership cards!
I have to remind my lady that “Uncle” is not a safeword. mwhahaha
I have actually unthinkingly tried to “tap out” before realizing that I’m having sex, not competing in a grappling match.
are those things mutually exclusive? 😉
Touche. 🙂
Now that’s from a different area entirely 🙂
~grin~
see, and a double tap is our equivalent of “yellow” any time speech is hindered.
It’s not really a bad idea. Tapping is an instinctive motion for me after years of grappling.
Although it’s not so useful if my hands are bound…
Double knock on any hard surface?
With some people I play with, “Uncle” is the opposite of a safeword – it means “Eek! Keep going! Ignore this safeword!”
I have to remind my lady that “Uncle” is not a safeword. mwhahaha
Wow, sounds like YOU had a good weekend! LoL
Wow, sounds like YOU had a good weekend! LoL
Not at all. Welcome aboard!
Not at all. Welcome aboard!
So… was she English?…. lol
the Cardigan is named after the 7th Earl of Cardigan (that’s in Wales….) more info http://tinyurl.com/29jrwk
So… was she English?…. lol
the Cardigan is named after the 7th Earl of Cardigan (that’s in Wales….) more info http://tinyurl.com/29jrwk
Same here.
I have actually unthinkingly tried to “tap out” before realizing that I’m having sex, not competing in a grappling match.
are those things mutually exclusive? 😉
Touche. 🙂
With some people I play with, “Uncle” is the opposite of a safeword – it means “Eek! Keep going! Ignore this safeword!”
Words in general are pretty dangerous.
You know, because they convey ideas.
Those pesky words and their ideas!
That’s why I never use them!
(Um, except in this one post?)
A ‘baloo’ is a bear. A ‘harfang’ is an owl.
Wow, I’m learning all kinds of unexpected things here!
A ‘baloo’ is a bear. A ‘harfang’ is an owl.
Cardigan. 🙂
Cardigan. 🙂
Mine is Kelly Clarkson. LOL (Ganked from 40 year old virgin when the dude was getting waxed and he yelled out her name, LMAO Curiously, I don’t remember much else from that movie.)
I’ve never seen the movie, but that’s pretty damn funny…
Mine is Kelly Clarkson. LOL (Ganked from 40 year old virgin when the dude was getting waxed and he yelled out her name, LMAO Curiously, I don’t remember much else from that movie.)
“Aardvark” is a safeword, at least around me. “Red” is a popular one as well. “Oh, sweet Jesus, no way!” on the other hand, not so much. 🙂
Nope! I didn’t know what a cardigan was. I have a lot of strange gaps in my knowledge, mostly centered around cooking, sewing, and similar domestic-type things.
BWAH! Don’t look at me; I was just an onlooker, not an active participant, for the evening.
I’ve never seen the movie, but that’s pretty damn funny…
Wow, I’m learning all kinds of unexpected things here!
~grin~
see, and a double tap is our equivalent of “yellow” any time speech is hindered.
This is creating really strange connections in my head… And no, not in the form of red aardvarks, though now that I think about it… 🙂
In most forms of martial arts involving joint locks, you indicate that you’ve had enough by “tapping out” — tapping the flat of your hand on the mat, your own shoulder, your opponent… Whatever will get the bugger to *let the hell go*. You very quickly learn that tapping out means tapping out. “Ow,” “that’s enough,” “I yield,” “oh, FUCK!” or any other variant are not, in fact, equivalent to tapping out.
Hmm… Do you know what a chesterfield is?
Now that’s from a different area entirely 🙂
BEST. POST. EVER.
BEST. POST. EVER.
Nope. Do tell!
this is a Chesterfield.
Though apparently, this is also a Chesterfield.
(The meaning I had in mind was that of an overstuffed couch. Little did I know…)
It’s not really a bad idea. Tapping is an instinctive motion for me after years of grappling.
Although it’s not so useful if my hands are bound…
Double knock on any hard surface?
After two years of playing with a particularly wonderful man, he pointed out that:
1. I’m more stubborn than is probably safe with someone who doesn’t love me.
2. “Okay, done now” has been my safeword, even if I don’t know it.
After two years of playing with a particularly wonderful man, he pointed out that:
1. I’m more stubborn than is probably safe with someone who doesn’t love me.
2. “Okay, done now” has been my safeword, even if I don’t know it.
huh, I never made that connection. I guess because in martial arts, tapping out is the end of just about every pin– it means “ok, you got me.”
With sex, “red” or whatever means that you’re doing something wrong or too much.
my safe word is Hippopotamus but when i just want him to back off a little i say hippo
wander what other people say when they want someone to back off as little
my safe word is Hippopotamus but when i just want him to back off a little i say hippo
wander what other people say when they want someone to back off as little