Baby, it’s Been a Wonderful Trip So Far!
Last Friday marked the moment when kellyv and I have officially been together for seventeen years. Hooray, us! 🙂
Of Dobermans and Deflowering
One of M’s favorite pasttimes is being present at what she calles “de-virginizing”–introducing people to the Castle, one of Tampa’s local goth clubs.
So she was quite delighted when it came to pass that Shelly and I decided to take smoocherie and fritzcat66 to the Castle for the first time on Saturday evening, and more delighted still to learn that sunyata__, in the company of many of her friends, would be there for her first time as well.
Shelly is a very, very bad girl. She has a number of twisted, kinky fetishes–one of which is seeing me in a collar.
Or better still, on a leash.
Or better still, on a leash in a public place. Like, for example, a Goth club.
Still, I can hardly fault her–after all, I’ve been known to leash her… So in the spirit of turnabout and fair play and all that silly stuff, we headed out with me appropriately leashed and collared.
It was good–we were Dobermans in a crowd of other Dobermans, rather than Dobermans in a cage of rabbits.
Which is not to say we didn’t get attention anyway…
Of Audiences and Hot Threesome Action
One of the nicest features about the Castle is the group of couches along the far edge of the dance floor, where one can sit and chill and watch what’s going on when one gets tired of dancing.
Or, where three–say, Shelly, M, and I–can cuddle up together and be a bit naughty. Which we did.
Didn’t take long to attract an audience. Some of the people in that audience didn’t even put up a pretence of subtlety, either–just sat and stared.
Kind of cool, really. Even if I didn’t get to spend enough time with sunyata__
Early Morning Flogging and Grapes
kellyv woke me up much too early Sunday morning, by taking advantage of me while I was sound asleep.
And as if that wasn’t enough, she then invited Shelly and M to do likewise, while she sat on the futon at the foot of the bed and watched.
And provided floggers.
And ice.
Shelly is bigger than I am, and can physically restrain me without too much effort. It wasn’t too difficult for her and M to put on a show for kellyv, rather like a live internet sex show only free and with your spouse.
Afterward, M fed all three of us grapes and apple slices dipped in caramel.
This “kinky things in front of an audience” bit is becoming a recurring theme in my life. Probably Shelly’s fault.
Falling into a black hole? Better stop for lunch!
smoocherie and fritzcat66 spent the night on Saturday, and headed out Sunday afternoon. M left shortly thereafter. Shelly got trapped in a time warp of some sort and stayed, theory being I’d take her home Monday morning.
I think kellyv knew better. At about lunchtime, she called us from her office and invited us to have lunch with her, as if she knew all along that we wouldn’t make it out before then.
It wasn’t until early evening that Shelly finally made it home. Time has a way of doing funny things like that sometimes.
I really do have other things going on in my life right now; it just doesn’t seem like it. But there’s a knack to dealing with chaos, and that is to recognize that haos is not, by itself, either a good or a bad thing. Chaos is the clay from which all things are molded and formed. Once you understand that, the rest becomes easy.
sounds interesting…
Did you enjoy yourself?
I’m very VERY new to things but I suspect public displays of bdsm and sex may be out for me….. I MUCH prefer to be amoung friends that I trust than with a group of strangers… but perhaps that’s just my perception of things as I’m still pretty clueless about how things work….
Re: sounds interesting…
on re-reading that- it occurs to me that it sounded rather judgemental… What I REALLY want to know is… (and this is how I shoul have phrased it…)
What do you think are the benefits to public versus private events?
I’ve never been to a play party, I’ve never gone to a place deliberately set up for playing… therefore, everything we’ve done has been pretty much unplanned or makeshift….
how does it differ?
Re: sounds interesting…
Had you talked to me a few years ago, I probably would’ve had most of the same reservations you do, so no judgement on yourpart is inferred. 🙂
But there is something very nice about play parties and S&M clubs. For starters, you’re surrounded by like-minded people; but morethan that, it provides the opportunity to explore a lot of things you might otherwise not get to explore, in a safe and controlled environment.
There is a much, much different dynamic to your activities when there is an audience watching, and thee’s a charge even in watching the activities of other people. Some if it is pretty obvious–you can get the opportunity to learn techniques, pick up ideas, and even play with equipment you might not otherwise get to play with. But it’s more subtle than that.
Having an audience changes the psychology. When you’re on display, everything is intensified, rather like when you’re on stage; you’re aware of the audience watching you, whihc tends to make you more aware of what’s happening to you, or what you’re doing.
And there’s something intoxicating about being the center of attention–of being the single most interesting thing in the audience’s lives at that moment in time.
The first time you’re in that kind of setting, it can be overwhelming, and you can feel out of place–which is fine, because it’s a novel social environment, and any new social environment can be scary. But the good thing about play parties is that they tend to be organized and run with that, and with creating a safe and comfortable environment, in mind; they provide a space that lets you experience some elements of public play in a very safe and non-threatening way.
As time goes on, I become more and more fond of the BDSM social scene. It’s addictive.
stage…performance
It seems like such a PRIVATE thing to be sharing in front of a group of people…
BUT- when we were at Starwood last year we had a ritualized bdsm event I was drumming during… that was just with intimate friends however…..
I have been on stage and it is scary but exhilarating… but the thought of getting THIS deeply personal in front of strangers frightens me… though oddly, I’m supposed to bare my soul when I sing …. hmmm… thinking now…..
sounds interesting…
Did you enjoy yourself?
I’m very VERY new to things but I suspect public displays of bdsm and sex may be out for me….. I MUCH prefer to be amoung friends that I trust than with a group of strangers… but perhaps that’s just my perception of things as I’m still pretty clueless about how things work….
Horray for stubborness!
Congratulations on 17 years.. Yay!! I think Franklin says that I will cease to be the new girlfriend somewhere around 5 years. Sheesh you people and your long relationships. I think you two are some of the most healthily stubborn people I know. And that’s something worth celebrating :).
*already planning some evil events for year 20* – such as playing ‘evil kidnapper who holds you for ransom’ – tying both of you together and then leaving you while I try to coerce some money out of someone. Question is – will they pay more to have you untied, or to leave you tied? Oh hell, who can wait till your 20th anniversary? COOKIE
Shit, did I just type all that outloud?
Horray for stubborness!
Congratulations on 17 years.. Yay!! I think Franklin says that I will cease to be the new girlfriend somewhere around 5 years. Sheesh you people and your long relationships. I think you two are some of the most healthily stubborn people I know. And that’s something worth celebrating :).
*already planning some evil events for year 20* – such as playing ‘evil kidnapper who holds you for ransom’ – tying both of you together and then leaving you while I try to coerce some money out of someone. Question is – will they pay more to have you untied, or to leave you tied? Oh hell, who can wait till your 20th anniversary? COOKIE
Shit, did I just type all that outloud?
Congrats on your anniversary!
Thanks! 🙂
Congrats on your anniversary!
Re: sounds interesting…
on re-reading that- it occurs to me that it sounded rather judgemental… What I REALLY want to know is… (and this is how I shoul have phrased it…)
What do you think are the benefits to public versus private events?
I’ve never been to a play party, I’ve never gone to a place deliberately set up for playing… therefore, everything we’ve done has been pretty much unplanned or makeshift….
how does it differ?
Re: sounds interesting…
Had you talked to me a few years ago, I probably would’ve had most of the same reservations you do, so no judgement on yourpart is inferred. 🙂
But there is something very nice about play parties and S&M clubs. For starters, you’re surrounded by like-minded people; but morethan that, it provides the opportunity to explore a lot of things you might otherwise not get to explore, in a safe and controlled environment.
There is a much, much different dynamic to your activities when there is an audience watching, and thee’s a charge even in watching the activities of other people. Some if it is pretty obvious–you can get the opportunity to learn techniques, pick up ideas, and even play with equipment you might not otherwise get to play with. But it’s more subtle than that.
Having an audience changes the psychology. When you’re on display, everything is intensified, rather like when you’re on stage; you’re aware of the audience watching you, whihc tends to make you more aware of what’s happening to you, or what you’re doing.
And there’s something intoxicating about being the center of attention–of being the single most interesting thing in the audience’s lives at that moment in time.
The first time you’re in that kind of setting, it can be overwhelming, and you can feel out of place–which is fine, because it’s a novel social environment, and any new social environment can be scary. But the good thing about play parties is that they tend to be organized and run with that, and with creating a safe and comfortable environment, in mind; they provide a space that lets you experience some elements of public play in a very safe and non-threatening way.
As time goes on, I become more and more fond of the BDSM social scene. It’s addictive.
Thanks! 🙂
stage…performance
It seems like such a PRIVATE thing to be sharing in front of a group of people…
BUT- when we were at Starwood last year we had a ritualized bdsm event I was drumming during… that was just with intimate friends however…..
I have been on stage and it is scary but exhilarating… but the thought of getting THIS deeply personal in front of strangers frightens me… though oddly, I’m supposed to bare my soul when I sing …. hmmm… thinking now…..
Probably bandage’s fault.
Hahaha. Amen. *highfives her*
Sounds like you’re having some fantastically kinky fun. Go you.
Probably bandage’s fault.
Hahaha. Amen. *highfives her*
Sounds like you’re having some fantastically kinky fun. Go you.